Back to Becky and Bobby
The idea for this blog occurred on a hiking trail on the coast of Lake Superior a few days ago (see photo of Apostle Island Cave at bottom of the 2021 Roadtrip page). Robert spontaneously decided to jump instead of walk up the next step on the trail (main blog picture…reenactment). I asked if he got a sudden burst of energy. He replied, “just an inspiration from Bobby”. A glimpse of his child self showed up in that moment. We then discussed the transition we both made going from Bobby to Bob to Robert and Becky to Rebecca. The name change was important at the time as we were interested in being taken seriously in our chosen careers and moving up the corporate ladder. It may also have been a rite of passage or a symbol of our adulthood.
This moment in the woods brought back our care-free days of being a child. I remember, as Becky, I had plenty of time to draw, play, listen to music and just dream. I think this is what Jesus meant when he said,
“We will not enter the kingdom of heaven unless we become like a child.”
I believe we are here to find heaven on earth and it is partly done through letting the outside world and it’s expectations, logic, roles and identities subside in favor of being guided by the small, always innocent, deeper voice inside. To learn more about raising your consciousness from shame to love, check out The Keys to Unlocking the Matrix, recorded from a Raising the Vibe presentation that Robert and I did recently.
As we mature we invariably lose some of our original child-like self and take on more responsible identities to be able to fit into what is expected of us by our family, friends and society. What is often lost is our original essence which is here to create and enjoy the freedom of just being in our authentic state. As adults we feel pressure to be successful and provide for our families. Oftentimes, our society has limited the meaning of success to mean getting higher educational degrees, making money and buying things. The ego success and consumption model often totally usurps our natural desire to express ourselves from our soul essence. We gradually lose our spark and settle for what is. And later we may not even remember what that original spark desired. Luckily, that spark is still a seed waiting to grow and can be watered and nurtured by each choice we make.
Later in life we have more of an opportunity, as our kids leave the nest, to shed some of the responsibilities of the world and deliberately look for our dormant spark. As parents it is typical and often necessary to put the needs and wants of our children before ours. I found that I lost that delicate balance at times in putting others needs before mine. I let my own campfire burn out because I was so busy trying to revive someone else’s campfire. I got on their roller coaster (truly living in their consciousness) and was not grounded enough to help myself or them. We can never be miserable enough to help someone else deal with their misery. I have found the only way to help others is to let my own light shine brightly, steeped in my own brand of authenticity, so others may be guided to theirs.
I am now living my life as authentically as possible and allowing “Becky” to come out and play as often as possible. Hope you find your inner spark and the self that is waiting there patiently for you.