The title of this blog, inspired by the Black Eyed Peas 2003 song, seems more relevant than ever right now. Remember the chorus?

People killin', people dyin'

Children hurtin', hear them cryin'

Can you practice what you preach?

And would you turn the other cheek?

Father, father, father, help us

Send some guidance from above

'Cause people got me, got me questioning

Where is the love?

As I look around the world at large, it is a fair question. However, no matter what the collective conscious (or more aptly the collective unconscious) is creating, you can tune your antenna to a different station and dramatically affect the world by elevating your consciousness. What I keep realizing is that attitude is the key (see poem below). …

Fall 2023 (Raisingthevibe.org newsletter)

It has been a long time since I have reached out! My summer was packed full of traveling, from short getaways to see family, to an international adventure to experience an ancient site. (See pics and info on the Bosnian Pyramids). One roadtrip included my high school reunion. A highlight of that trip involved visiting my high school in Charleston Il. The tour was complete when we were able to sit in our old Driver's Ed simulators (picture below). Yes, they still had the same ones!

I am sure you have heard the saying, “history repeats itself, or at least it rhymes”. There may be a good reason for this. As I have postulated before, we are co-creating our reality through our consciousness, like through a projector, but most of this projection comes from our subconscious. These programs, much like software code, were laid down primarily during the first 7 years of life, through absorbing the energy signature of our family. They were also coded during conception from our ancestors DNA, epigenetically, according to Bruce Lipton, Phd. History is repeating itself because we are re-living the same programs as our ancestors, thus playing a movie, or record album, in our current setting with a similar theme.

Recently I was reminded of the book, The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein. This heartwarming children’s book actually is a pretty dynamic portrayal of codependency. Psychology Today describes codependency as follows:

Codependency is a dysfunctional relationship dynamic where one person assumes the role of “the giver,” sacrificing their own needs and well-being for the sake of the other, “the taker.” The bond in question doesn’t have to be romantic; it can occur just as easily between parent and child, friends, and family members. - Psychology Today

The term “codependency” first appeared in substance abuse circles to describe a lopsided relationship that has been consumed and controlled by one person’s addiction. It has expanded into more general terms of unequal relationships.

Are you consistently saying yes to things you want to say no to? Or, are you not even sure how you feel and auto pilot takes over? Well…your body knows. A “no” feels like constriction and may be accompanied by shallow breathing. You will probably feel a vague sense of unease when you are in the situation or just thinking about it.

What is showing up for me right now is the importance of boundaries and self love. This theme has been presenting itself over the last several months in different variations. It seems I am being tested in diplomatically walking the tight rope between honoring self and meeting the needs of others.

Boundaries allow me to love me and you at the same time.

It is amazingly hard for empaths to say no when someone you love or even a casual acquaintance asks you for something. Whether it is doing something for a family member or a volunteer job for an organization. There is often guilt associated with saying no. There is deep programming in our society that says that you shouldn’t be selfish and that doing for family members or co-workers is more important than your own happiness. There is often childhood wounding that causes us to discount ourselves for the sake of others.

More and more, I am seeing life like a metaphor. We play out on this stage, in the material world, experiences our soul needs to return “home” and find wholeness. Just like our bodies are always communicating with us, so are our daily life experiences and interpersonal relationships.

Here is a story that happened to me recently:

I went to our Property Association Office (POA) to pick up some packages. I often leave the car running and just jump out and get the packages. However, this time when I returned, I was shocked to find out that I was locked out of my car… with it running. My purse and phone were also inside😦.

The POA was closed, but I did realize that someone was in the other room with a closed door. I opened the door to see if I could borrow her phone. She, apparently on a business Zoom call, immediately dismissed me before I could explain my emergency. I shut the door sheepishly and sat down. I got quiet and tuned to my higher self and asked for help.

The short answer to this question could be: not using the right type of love for the situation or thinking that being a martyr is a type of love.  

If you are reading this blog, you have most likely been there…flat out exhausted caring for others before tending to your own needs. This may be caring for children, elderly parents, clients or friends before taking care of yourself.

Somehow being a martyr was promoted as a good thing. Unfortunately, all martyrdom does is get you out of the sync with the natural energetic laws of the universe.   To be in harmony, there must be a balance between giving and receiving. If we give away all of our energy we will not be of service to anyone else, much less ourselves. When we close the channels to receiving, most likely on an unconscious basis, we close the conduit for receiving Source or Divine energy as well. In addition, martyrdom often creates anger and resentment when ultimately the ones you are serving just can’t appreciate you enough. Most times they didn’t even ask you do so much for them in the first place. Martyrdom often comes from a place of wanting to feel needed and loved.

Martyrdom is not a demonstration of Love, It is an exhibit of Love Deprivation. The remedy for Martyrdom is Omni-Love.  - MCEO Freedom Teachings

Most of you are probably familiar with Metatron’s Cube and the “Flower of Life”. These symbols are all over yoga studios, new age crystal shops and materials that say that they support ascension… but do they really? Have we really stopped to understand what these symbols represent?

This year has been one of deep introspection for me as well as extensive research into spiritual science. I have been guided to an amazing body of knowledge from the Emerald Order Guardian Alliance and want to share with you my discoveries for your own discernment. As always, take only what resonates with you for your own evolutionary path.

Five years ago, I had an awakening experience. I remember the moment that my higher self was speaking clearly to me when I realized there was much more to our world than the 3D mainstream narrative. I asked myself two questions:

How does energy interact between people and all of creation?

What do all religions throughout time and culture have in common?

Natural vs. Artificial: The Blended Reality

Are we currently living in a blended reality, one organic/natural, and the other synthetic/artificial? I assert that we are. When I think of natural vs. artificial, the idea of organic sugar compared artificial sweetener comes to mind. One comes from the earth and the natural order of things, and one is created in a lab, like the robot above. I have recently come to realize that there is a part of us that is organic, connected to prime creator and nature’s intelligence system. This part of us is full of life and is founded upon unconditional love, purity, freedom and creation. There is also a part of us attached to the false matrix and AI. This negative reality system, which we have been subjected to for thousands of years, is anti-human and is parasitic in nature. It has become undeniable if you truly look and discern for yourself, that a small group, on the top of the pyramid, is siphoning energy from the rest. This is done through mind control. Tragically, much of this anti-life programming is embedded in our media and large institutions, and becomes indiscernible because it is the only thing we have known. We are so used to it that we don’t even realize that the programming that is entrenched in our day-to-day life is fear-based and always talking about what is wrong with us. Our consciousness and belief systems create our reality, so it is no wonder we are living in this chaotic world we are witnessing today. (To learn more about the false matrix, how we are trapped, and ways to escape, download my free ebook, The Matrix Resurrections Unraveled here . )

Like this piece of clay, we are all molded through the course of life into the people we are today, with our own belief systems and programming (literally), which contribute to our accomplishments and life situation.

Who did you mold yourself into by the countless choices you made?

In some sense, we are the culmination of the many choices we have made. But to be fair, most of the molding was done in utero (environment and inherited) and in the first seven years of life when others were more in control than we were. According to Dr. Bruce Lipton, your brain was acting as a tape recorder downloading all of the programs from your mother, father and siblings to better help you adapt to your environment. And according to the Gene Keys Synthesis by Richard Rudd, the next seven years laid down your emotional programming. From age 14 to 21, your mental processes took over to create a cover story to make sense of your childhood programming and emotions, all trying to compensate for a core wound. Core wounds vary, and according to the Gene Keys there are six: repression, denial, shame, rejection, guilt, and separation, that come as a part of the human condition. We experience them all to some extent, but we each have a main one we are working with in this lifetime.

As per usual, what is showing up in my life as a theme is often the subject of my monthly blog. Most of you are familiar with the famous Buddha quote:

“The root of suffering is attachment”. -Buddha

We are not just attached to people and objects, we are attached to all of these things as this visual shows. We may be attached to our opinion or get stuck in a rut with our routine. One way to help with many of these attachments is to stop identifying with our small self or ego. We are not just the people we see in the mirror with names attached. We are each an infinite spark of the divine having a temporary experience. When we can let go of the fear of living and dying, we can truly experience life as a free co-creator of this world. In addition, when we stop identifying with the “small self”, we can more easily let go of what other people think, and realize that anything they may feel about us is a projection of their own fear or wounding.

*This visual created by my son, Will Becker, for his Spiritual Awakening Discord Server, https://discord.com/channels/953120470750883990/953131738744381460

Do you often feel like a victim? Do you feel that life is unfair and that you got the wrong end of the deal? Do you think there is at least one abuser in your life? Or, do you feel you would be much happier and successful if “these” people would stop taking advantage of you? If so, you may be projecting victim consciousness. Not to say that these things didn’t happen to you and that you were not adversely affected. It just means part of you is buying into and resonating in the co-dependent triangle that may be keeping you in this position. Some of the words to describe victim consciousness follow:

Victim (“I’m Helpless”)

• Helplessness

• Hopelessness

• Despair

• Depression

• Low self-esteem

• Self-rejection

• Shame

• Fear

• Isolation

Why would you want to be a victim and continue to identify as such? There are subconscious reasons to do so, and maybe they were passed on epigenetically from your ancestors. By playing the victim, you are abdicating your power to things outside of yourself, and not realizing you are the main co-creator of your life. In addition, without realizing it, some “victims” take on a self-righteous ego personality. These traits of victim consciousness, from Raising the Vibe Business Member, Dr. Nicholas Demetry (Thesouldoctor.com) in his book ‘Divine Partnership: Unity Beyond Duality”, are just one part of the co-dependent triangle.

For those of you who realize that we are at a crucial time in the history of humanity, I urge you to take action.  We have heard that history repeats itself. As we look back at the oppression of certain groups 80 years ago during the second World War, let us not forget what happened and repeat that on a much greater scale.   As we all have a different perspective on what is happening right now, it is more important than ever to act on your inner knowing, whatever that is.  Ask yourself if you are just repeating the narrative of what is being told to you in the media or listening to your inner being and gut knowing.  When your children or grandchildren ask you what you did during the time of the great change, how would you like to respond?

As we start a new year, in addition to setting intentions/resolutions for yourself, you may want to contemplate your relationship first to self, and then to others and to Mother Earth/nature. Don’t judge yourself harshly, but honestly assess where you are with patience and gentleness. Awareness is the first step to any improvement in your life. Take some time to pause and reflect on these questions.

Am I in Right Relation to myself?

Do I value my personal freedom and realize the importance of being a sovereign being?

Do I spend time in silence often connected to my inner being?

Are my thoughts, words and actions in harmony?

Am I in balance with mind, body and spirit?

Is my intuitive right brain (feminine) side balanced with the left brain logical (masculine) side?

Am I able to give and receive equally?

Do I take time to bring myself in the present moment or is most of my consciousness in the future or past?

Am I able to turn off negative thought forms and laugh or at least neutrally witness my ego self for trying to bring me down?

Am I practicing daily gratitude? ….click to see rest of blog.

It is important to note that we all have fears. Some are positive and keep you from legitimate harm, while others are negative and only cause your body harm because no real present danger is imminent. In addition, our mind may be telling us that we are fine and have handled the stress, but our body is saying something different. We often don’t even realize we are in adrenal stress causing all sorts of physical ailments including anxiety, fatigue, and inflammation to name a few. I personally didn’t realize my body was in acute adrenal fatigue several years ago. I just got so used to dealing with a heightened level of stress that it became normal. It is often that slow constant distress that is caused by an imbalance in life. If this is you, check out the article Stillnessinthestorm, for more insight.

“The tricky part is even knowing you are under constant stress; the lingering low-grade kind of stress that kills very slowly. We tend to adjust, to accept, to allow. But when it comes to stress, it’s not a healthy idea.” From “How Stress Affects Your Adrenal Health and What to do About it”, Stillnessinthestorm

Sometimes we have to say no, even if it isn’t popular, because that NO is coming from the core of our being, not something that is programmed into us out of fear, shame or guilt. That unwavering inner knowing of what is and is not morally right, from a place of unconditional love, is actually an attribute of the Divine Feminine in women and men. This aspect of me was calling so strongly that I had to get up this morning (at 4:44 a.m.) and write this. We must all stand in our truth and speak before it is too late. So, here is my truth:

I do not consent to fear-mongering

I do not consent to divide and conquer tactics

I do not consent to being told propaganda and lies

I do not consent for hospitals and doctors to be limited in the protocols they use

I do not consent to being silenced and censored on social media

I do not consent to being separated from sick or dying loved ones

I do not consent to transhumanism and AI control of my body

My desk lamp (from Pottery Barn) is an inspiration…really, read on.    What unconsciously attracted me is the strong iron core from base to top that connects to the light.   It is made of transparent crystal signifying honesty and integrity with nothing to hide. What you see on the outside is what is on the inside, no distortions.   My light is deeply grounded in the earth, but connects strongly upward. Even though it's transparency can be vulnerable, it is protected with the hard crystal, not allowing energy that is not suited to penetrate the field.

It is an inspiration to live like this but is definitely not easy in the world we occupy today. The natural world just grows and does not have misconceptions of who it is. It connects with its source energy and becomes who it was destined to become from the seed, assuming the environment is not too toxic.  Unfortunately, humanity throughout time has taken on many distortions and is conflicted on how to proceed. What you see on the outside in most cases is not what is inside.

When I describe the mission of Raising the Vibe, I often use the analogy of a camera lens. This non-profit’s mission is to open up your point-of-view, or consciousness, like widening the aperture of the camera lens. When we open up to other ideas of our reality, pushing our all-knowing ego to the side, we can bring in more love and light to activate our DNA. This in turn raises our vibration to a higher, more authentic level so we can experience a more positive reality.

We have all grown up with phrases such as, "put your heart into it", "she has a heart of gold", and "a change of heart". So we have always known at some level that the heart is more than an organ that pumps blood. In fact, according to Heartmath.org: "The heart is a highly complex information-processing center with its own functional brain, commonly called the heart brain, that communicates with and influences the cranial brain via the nervous system, hormonal system and other pathways. These influences affect brain function and most of the body’s major organs and play an important role in mental and emotional experience and the quality of our lives."

Today will never happen again, neither will the moments throughout it. Every moment of every day is unique. They are not the same. Unless, your focus is too focused, if you walk through the day with the same lens.