How Have Your Choices Molded You?

Like this piece of clay, we are all molded through the course of life into the people we are today, with our own belief systems and programming (literally), which contribute to our accomplishments and life situation.

Who did you mold yourself into by the countless choices you made?

In some sense, we are the culmination of the many choices we have made. But to be fair, most of the molding was done in utero (environment and inherited) and in the first seven years of life when others were more in control than we were. According to Dr. Bruce Lipton, your brain was acting as a tape recorder downloading all of the programs from your mother, father and siblings to better help you adapt to your environment. And according to the Gene Keys Synthesis by Richard Rudd, the next seven years laid down your emotional programming. From age 14 to 21, your mental processes took over to create a cover story to make sense of your childhood programming and emotions, all trying to compensate for a core wound. Core wounds vary, and according to the Gene Keys there are six: repression, denial, shame, rejection, guilt, and separation, that come as a part of the human condition. We experience them all to some extent, but we each have a main one we are working with in this lifetime.

It is as if each choice (yes or no) in your bio-computer of a body/brain made a choice that led you where you are right now reading this blog. Some choices are healthy and expansive and others not so much. We all have watershed moments in our life, when we decide whether or not to pursue higher education, a specific career, move to a geographic location or get married.

I remember one of those moments vividly the spring of my fourth year at the University of Virginia. I had some job offers in New York City and Washington DC, but they were not in the field that I really wanted to pursue. I made a huge choice sitting at a RAX restaurant (like a Wendy’s) with one of my roommates. I was trying to convince Jules to come to New York City with me, but then she said, “I always heard that Atlanta was nice.”’ That was it…a life changing moment. A sorority sister who was from Atlanta, who happened to be sitting near, assured us that she and her family would help us out. Decision made. Job offers turned down and the car was soon packed up to move into our apartment in Atlanta with no job, but the intent to get into the account management department of an ad agency. All worked out, and after an internship working for free, I was hired and started on my path in the field that I chose, and in the city that I preferred. This was a key fork in my tree of life. I not only embarked on my advertising career, but met my future spouse and had two children, calling Atlanta home for over 30 years.

You may think back to pivotal moments in your life and ask yourself the following questions:

Was my choice based out of love or fear?

Did I choose from my mind or heart or both?

In the example above, I chose from a place of love/intuition (the heart) and did not let the fear of not finding employment sway me into taking the “bird in hand”, so to speak, in terms of a job. When you choose from a place of fear, it usually does not turn out as well as choosing from an open heart. Fear is constrictive and love is expansive. Also, when you choose only from logic (the proverbial pros and cons list), you have a 50% chance of getting it wrong, since the brain is a binary processor. I am now a firm believer that the gut can be trusted to know better because it is connected to your higher self, or the Divine, who knows your life plan and is looking out for you. Even the minor choices, like whether or not to attend a party, may have directed your life to take one of the those primary forks in your tree of life. It could have determined if you met a future spouse or not.

To make us feel better, we can’t get it wrong. The macrocosm and the algorithms of the universe will lead us along our personal journey, but some journeys have more suffering than others. Some paths are more direct, like a highway, in terms of a spiritual awakening and finding our higher purpose. On the other hand, the “scenic route” may provide more variety and entertainment along the way, but be slower in terms of self-actualization. And sometimes, we have to be hit by the “universal 2 x 4” to get back on track to our higher purpose if we encounter too much entropy. This can come in the form of an illness, loss of a job, or divorce, among other things the Universe will serve up.

“Difficulty comes when you don’t pay attention to life’s whispers. Life always whispers to you first, but if you ignore the whisper, sooner or later you will get a scream.” - Oprah Winfrey

If you have not yet found what makes your heart sing, I would recommend going to Genekeys.com and downloading your free unique profile based on your birthday, time and place. You will discover your life’s work (what you are here to do), evolution (what you are here to learn), your radiance (what keeps you healthy) and purpose (your true essence) and much more. As a Gene Keys Guide, I can help you interpret your chart and discover your core wound and programming as well.

Remember, you can always choose again if you are not happy where you are.

“If you are going down a road and don’t like what’s in front of you, and look behind you and don’t like what you see, get off the road. Create a new path!” — Maya Angelou

About the Author: Rebecca Paris, formerly Rebecca Becker, is a former advertising professional and VP of Marketing for United Way of Atlanta as well as an artist. She is the founder and Executive Director of Raising the Vibe, a 501 (C)(3) nonprofit, and is now offering her services as a Gene Keys and Spiritual Guide. In addition to blogging, Rebecca has authored the free Ebook, The Matrix Resurrections Unraveled, to unpack the nature of our reality exposed in this latest Matrix movie.