The Story of Your Life
“The unexamined life is not worth living” - Socrates
Many times if you just take a look at your life from a higher level, your life story will paint a picture of who you are and how all of the chapters in your life are divinely designed to bring you to your destined vocation or calling. Each area, or petri dish in life, is cultivating your growth. A major life event, relationship or career move is giving you clues about your evolution. Why did you make life-altering choices? What were the lessons learned? Why did you move on? Are you moving forward or backward? Oftentimes, when you overcome something painful, you are uniquely able to be a “teacher” in that area. Also, by looking back at you at your best you can determine future areas of passion. Listen to friends, psychics and what is showing up in life and your meditation practice. Daily presence in life gives you clues.
Why Tell the Story of Your Life? Life is about constant change which you can resist because of fear or embrace through love. When you realize that you create your life and stop seeing yourself as a victim, determining your higher purpose can happen more quickly. Life gives you the same test until you pass it. By examining the lessons you learned and the patterns that keep repeating, you can consciously choose a direction and get off auto-pilot. Moments of joy can give you clues to what types of things to repeat in the future.
Ways to Capture Your Story If you enjoy writing, a mini chronological autobiography may be a good way to examine your life. In addition, there are journals that ask prompting questions to help get the ideas flowing. If you are more visual, drawing a life map may be more to your liking. Joys may go on the top and periods of suffering can go below the line. Furthermore, using the Trauma Egg model may be a good option to explore deeper issues. Circle commonalities to find a pattern. When you heal your core wound, you may discover a calling or vocation around that area of life.
The Epigenetic Contribution to Your Story - Dr. Bruce Lipton discovered that babies in utero imprint emotional cues from their mother in order to be best adapted for survival. Because DNA carries trauma from past generations, your limiting beliefs may not be from your life but from an ancestor. Interviewing your family may shed light on subconscious patterns. For example, a traumatic immigrant experience can be carried down the line to future generations and show up in your life as a program about not fitting in. Energy work is an effective gentle way to pull out epigenetic programs.
Understanding the Cycles of Life Experts have discovered that we cycle through different phases in our life every 7 years. Our first seven years of life are mainly in theta brain wave state as we subconsciously take note about how to survive in the world (root chakra). During the ages of 7-1 4, you create a gender identity in the sacral chakra. Our adolescence, 14 -21, is predominantly concerned with belonging and our power (solar plexus). Adult phases are about relationships and establishing your place in the world which further develop your egoic personality. Around mid-life is a natural time to look at your life and take stock of where you are and where you want to go. Self-aware people will balance the heart wisdom with the logical mental side.
Using Your Story to Identify Your Gifts and Purpose. Try not to get too mental in examining your autobiography or life map. Using intuition, your right brain, to guide you where to focus may be a good option. Your body will tell you through feeling free or constricted on what may be going on. Also notice what is showing up in your life now as it is probably a clue on your next step in evolution. It is beneficial to make an intention every day or you will be swept away by the intentions and will of others.
Exercise:
Draw your life on a timeline and/or write an autobiography of the major events in your life. These should include times where you experienced joy and being in the flow or experienced your darkest hour and the transformation you made. You may want to mark major events like a parent’s divorce, graduating college, your job changes and marriage in the middle as sign markers.
Visual ways to capture your life:
Life Map: https://www.thecounterstory.com/create-your-life-map/
Trauma Egg: https://healingforthesoul.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/08/Trauma-Egg.pdf
Written ways to capture your life:
You can just start writing or use guided journals, like The Story of My Life or the Book of Me (found on Amazon.)
Resources:
7 year cycles in life/tied to Chakras
https://themysticmedium.com/the-seven-spiritual-life-cycles/
https://malavikasuresh.files.wordpress.com/2012/09/chakrasfinal.png
Book: It Didn’t Start with You, By Mark Wolynn, Looks at what you inherited through your family, epigenetics.
https://www.amazon.com/Didnt-Start-You-Inherited-Family/dp/1101980389
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About the Author: Rebecca Paris, formerly Rebecca Becker, is a former advertising professional and VP of Marketing for United Way of Atlanta as well as an artist. She is the founder and Executive Director of Raising the Vibe, a 501 (C)(3) nonprofit, and is now offering her services as a Gene Keys and Spiritual Guide. In addition to blogging, Rebecca has authored the free Ebook, The Matrix Resurrections Unraveled, to unpack the nature of our reality exposed in this latest Matrix movie.